At The Balanced Beat, we believe in real connections.
We believe in loyalty, in kindness, and in friendships that make you feel seen, loved, and supported.
But what happens when someone you called a friend turns out to be the complete opposite?
This post isn’t about gossip. It’s about grief.
Because when someone you trusted turns out to be fake, it hurts in a way that’s hard to explain.
You feel confused. Rejected. Disappointed.
And sometimes, you even feel ashamed for believing in them so much.
If you’ve ever been let down by someone you loved like family—this post is for you.
🤍 The Story I Didn’t See Coming
In 2017, I met someone on a trip to Croatia. We clicked instantly—she felt like a true friend.
She took me to meet her parents. They made me a birthday cake. I felt so welcomed, so appreciated.
Over the years, we stayed in touch. We talked. We laughed. We celebrated life—even from afar.
So when I decided to visit Croatia again this year, I reached out. Naturally. Excitedly.
But something felt… off.
Her responses were dry, distant, and awkward.
Still, I tried to stay positive. I told her when I’d be arriving and invited her to join me and our mutual friends for dinner or coffee.
That’s when she said she was planning a trip to Hungary.
And two days later…
She blocked me on WhatsApp.
She unfollowed me on Instagram.
Just like that—silence. Distance. Disappearing.
No explanation. No conversation.
Just the cold realization: She was never really my friend.
😔 What It Feels Like When a Friendship Was Fake
It’s hard to put into words, isn’t it?
You replay the moments. You question everything.
You ask yourself:
- Was I imagining it all?
- Did I do something wrong?
- How can someone just walk away like that?
Here’s the truth:
People will sometimes pretend to care, until they don’t.
They’ll take your kindness, your openness, your loyalty—and toss it aside when it no longer benefits them.
💡 Why it’s great to face it: Calling it what it is—a fake friendship—helps you heal honestly. You’re not crazy. You just cared more than they did.
✨ Tip: Don’t rewrite history to protect them. Accept what they showed you. That was the real version.
💔 How to Heal When Someone You Trusted Turns Out to Be Fake
✅ 1. Let Yourself Be Sad
It’s not “just a friendship.” It was a relationship. A bond. And losing it—especially in such a confusing way—is a loss.
✨ Tip: Journal your thoughts. Let the feelings come up. Cry if you need to. Pain is part of healing.
✅ 2. Don’t Chase Closure
If someone can block you without a word, they’ve already chosen to disconnect. You don’t need to beg for reasons. Their silence is the answer.
💡 Why it’s great to let go: True friends don’t leave without conversation. Real people don’t ghost without cause.
✨ Tip: Write a letter you’ll never send. Say everything you wish you could say—then delete it, or burn it.
✅ 3. Protect Your Heart—But Don’t Build Walls
Just because one person was fake doesn’t mean everyone will be.
Guard your heart, yes. But don’t become bitter. Don’t stop being kind. Don’t stop being you.
✨ Affirmation: “I can be wise and open at the same time. One person’s betrayal will not change my character.”
✅ 4. Focus on the Friends Who Show Up
Real friends don’t make you guess.
They check in.
They make time.
They tell the truth—even when it’s hard.
✨ Tip: Reach out to the people who make you feel safe and valued. Let them remind you what real love looks like.
✅ 5. Let God Handle the Rest
You may never get an apology. You may never know why.
But God sees everything—and He always handles what you can’t.
“The Lord is near to the brokenhearted and saves the crushed in spirit.” — Psalm 34:18
✨ Prayer: “God, help me release what I don’t understand. Heal my heart, and teach me how to love without fear again.”
🌱 Final Thoughts: Not Everyone You Lose Is a Loss
Sometimes, God allows people to walk away so you don’t keep investing in what was never meant to last.
Yes, it hurts.
Yes, it’s disappointing.
But it’s also a redirection—a protection from people who were never meant to go with you into your next chapter.
So let it go.
Let them go.
And thank God for the clarity—even if it came through heartbreak.
You deserve friendships that are real, consistent, and life-giving.
And those kinds of people?
They won’t block you when you need them most.
They’ll open the door and say, “Welcome back. I’m so glad you’re here.”